How co-parents can break down communication barriers
When it comes to co-parenting, communication is key. However, if it seems like you struggle to communicate with your ex, you are not alone. In fact, science proves that men and women inherently communicate differently, which can lead to misunderstandings and conflict.
While women tend to communicate through discussing emotions, problems and options, men tend to use communication as a tool to achieve something. You can read more about the differences in the ways men and women communicate in this article.
When you add the emotional baggage of having gone through a divorce or breakup, communicating with an ex can be even more difficult. But as joint parenting arrangements are becoming more and more common, if it helpful if co-parents can communicate effectively on a regular basis.
Here are some tips from the Texas Attorney General to help you do that:
Avoid arguing in front of the children
Use email (or notes or letters) to communicate if f talking face-to-face is too difficult
Communicate regularly to help keep small misunderstandings into big conflicts
Think of it like communicating with a co-worker
Make important decisions together
Set up a regular time to talk about the children
Try to remember that you both want what’s best for your kids, so don’t judge the other parent’s decisions
The Texas Attorney General reminds co-parents that even though their romantic relationship is over, the focus is now on the children. If you can show your kids that you can communicate and get along with the other parent your children will end up happier and healthier as a result.
You can read more about co-parenting tips in the Texas Attorney General’s Co-Parenting Guide.